Psalm 144:4 Man is like a breath; his days are like a fleeting shadow.

Influence (part 1)

Acceptance leads to influence.

This is something very observable in relationships.  For example, at school, we had (or have) a group of friends that we have grown closer to and this has happened because they accept us.  A true friend accepts you for who you are, ‘warts and all’, ugly bits and beautiful bits and eventually, real friends earn to appreciate who you are and accept you because of who you are, not just tolerating who you are.

When we are with true friends, we open up.  We drop our guard and they get to see the real us.  We are honest, emotionally bare and, knowing we will be accepted by our friends, things come out that would be hidden elsewhere.

So, in friendship, we drop our guard, we know that we are accepted by our friends, and we are therefore more open with them.

Knowing our friends accept us and vice versa leads to us being influenced by their thoughts and actions (and vice versa again).

When we see our friends like or have accessed / bought something, we are influenced to think that maybe that will be a good idea for us to do it too.
Most of the time, this is harmless and possibly even beneficial. It definitely benefits the companies selling products, but it also has the potential to trip us up!

It is quite possible that we can become influenced by our friends in a way that leads us down a path we were not originally intending or were previously trying to avoid.  Because we are accepted, because that acceptance leads to influence, because everyone around us is doing it and accepting each other for doing it.

So What?

Understanding this rule of thumb gives us a challenge to choose our friends wisely.  Be careful who we open up to, be careful who we mix with especially if we feel we are easily led.

To a certain degree, I believe there are people who are ‘influencers’ and people who are ‘influenced’.  If we are easily influenced rather than people who easily influence others, then we need to be even more careful with whom we choose to drop our guard.

Proverbs 13:20
He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.

We might not be made ‘foolish’ by mixing with fools, but eventually, we will end up being harmed by their foolish actions or the fallout from them.

Lets choose our friends wisely

2 responses to “Influence (part 1)

  1. Charles 12/05/2010 at 21:43

    Nice new site 🙂

  2. alexthegreen 12/05/2010 at 21:46

    Thanks C

    It is taking a bit of tweaking but has a lot more potential for personalisation it seems.

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